Two of my aunts have passed away. This is the saddest thing being away. You don’t get to mourn with family. My mom would video chat with me about it as she cannot visit given our current situation— we’re all saddened by what we’ve heard from the Philippines.
One of the 2 aunts is actually the wife of my uncle. Does it matter that she’s an in-law? Definitely no. She was as related to us as my uncle. She’s already in the family when I was a young kid, perhaps when I was around 2 or 3?
My uncles sent my widowed uncle home with one of my cousins. Told him to have a quick shower while the siblings prepare for the funeral— my uncle according to my cousin went to the bathroom and came out with a towel on. He was disoriented— crying. He didn’t know from which cabinet he gets his good clothes as it’s always been his wife doing that ever since.
It was a heartbreaking scene and I can imagine.
I began to think how dependent are we on our husbands/wives? Are we gonna be lost without our partners? Are we going to be able to continue living? How do we function as the only living parent?
It is hard. I cannot even think about this.
It pains me to imagine that my uncle had to undergo such loss and we’re just hearing about it from afar. We cannot even offer comfort. I know that he is surrounded by family, from both sides and I know that despite him being distant as a person— & his wife kept him glued to our family, he will remain loved.
We’re still in isolation and my husband is still on extreme pain, but given the situation above, who are we to complain or be sad about our situation. I am taking a break to be thankful.
We are grateful for living & we are so sorry for those who are deeply hurting.